People have a way of disappearing from our lives, one way or another. No matter how you hold on to them, it seems they're determined to slip away from your fingers. Just like a pen or a card or a cellphone, no matter how carefully you hide them, put them in your pocket, if you're destined to lose them, you will. The people in your life will come and go, no matter what. No phone call or email or drama could make them want to stay once they've made up their minds.
This I will tell you my friend, because I once was in your position. Holding on to someone long gone like it's the end of the world is like holding on spilled milk.. Impossible. Carlo always come to mind. Remember him? When I went to Hong Kong a couple of years back, we were still a couple then, I would call him everyday. Just to say hi. Check on how he's doing; how he and his mentor's doing. I would stop by a mall in Causeway Bay, just to use an internet connection in one of those coffeeshops just to send an email, or just to chat with him. When I went home, after a couple of months, Carlo hooked up with Mentor, and I was left with nothing, I learned that they started 'dating' when I was away. So after that, I realized that no amount of text or calls or e-mials would have changed the way things turned out to be. Don't get me wrong, I'm not telling you not to try and fight for your partner, or chase after him. I'm just saying that once you've reached that point where everything's said and done, learn to stop. Learn to move on. Because you can hold on to them for the rest of your life, while they hold on to someone else.
Learn to look at it as an opportunity for you to meet other people. I said learn because I know it will be hard to will yourself up and look beyond the person you so dearly love or loved. Yes it's not always a fun process, but hey, you just might meet someone better. Way better than the one you're crying over now.
Poeple will come and go, my friend. Remember that. Enjoy the moments, cherish the happiness and forget the loneliness.
Hugs.
This I will tell you my friend, because I once was in your position. Holding on to someone long gone like it's the end of the world is like holding on spilled milk.. Impossible. Carlo always come to mind. Remember him? When I went to Hong Kong a couple of years back, we were still a couple then, I would call him everyday. Just to say hi. Check on how he's doing; how he and his mentor's doing. I would stop by a mall in Causeway Bay, just to use an internet connection in one of those coffeeshops just to send an email, or just to chat with him. When I went home, after a couple of months, Carlo hooked up with Mentor, and I was left with nothing, I learned that they started 'dating' when I was away. So after that, I realized that no amount of text or calls or e-mials would have changed the way things turned out to be. Don't get me wrong, I'm not telling you not to try and fight for your partner, or chase after him. I'm just saying that once you've reached that point where everything's said and done, learn to stop. Learn to move on. Because you can hold on to them for the rest of your life, while they hold on to someone else.
Learn to look at it as an opportunity for you to meet other people. I said learn because I know it will be hard to will yourself up and look beyond the person you so dearly love or loved. Yes it's not always a fun process, but hey, you just might meet someone better. Way better than the one you're crying over now.
Poeple will come and go, my friend. Remember that. Enjoy the moments, cherish the happiness and forget the loneliness.
Hugs.
6 comments:
so true... i second the motion. well, i just hope your friend will be able to move on after this.
nice. so nice.
he will move on. i know he will.
I so liked this post.
yes he will.
aylavet! expert kna! ;)
i can relate with this blog post..huhu
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